Knowing your match: What to ask before meeting

Six Questions to Ask Your Match Before Meeting Up in Person

Knowing what to ask a potential match via an online dating site can be a daunting proposition. Breaking the ice and getting to know someone can be challenging, so arming yourself with some insightful and open questions is an excellent way of truly getting to know someone. Here are six questions that you can pose to your match before deciding if meeting up in person is a good idea.

What do you love doing more than anything else? 

Instead of simply finding out what your match enjoys doing in their spare time, crank the question up a notch to find out what their favourite thing in the world is. Their answer will tell you a lot about their interests and hobbies.

If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be and why? 

This question will help you in knowing your match, if she’s got wanderlust or would prefer to spend most of her time at home. Finding a companion to travel the world with is something that many people aspire to, so a willingness to travel is an important trait to find.

How would you describe your work? 

This is a clever question, and here’s why. You want to find out how your match values their profession and what they do for a living. Instead of asking what their job is, understanding how they would describe their work gives you an insight into their personality. For instance, instead of saying ‘I’m a writer,’ she might say, ‘I’m thrilled to be living my dream – earning decent money while writing for a living, I couldn’t be happier!’ Giving them the option to describe what they do is insightful.

What (or who) couldn’t you live without? 

This question tells you all about the other person’s priorities. If they tell you they couldn’t live without a list of possessions, without mentioning their parents or close friends, it could be a sign that they’re materialistic. Be sure to find someone who gives answers to this question that would be similar to yours as this will guarantee a win in knowing your match.

What’s your idea of a good first date? 

Asking this gives you an insight into whether they’re into you or not. If they elaborately describe something that is feasible for you to do together, you could follow it up with a simple, ‘would you like me to take you out on this date?’ It’s a smooth way into a difficult question.

How would you describe your family?  

The answer to this question will likely be a deal breaker for lots of us. If you plan to find a long-term partner, you need to meet someone who has strong family values and has respect and love for their current family. Strong family values are a huge part of many Asian cultures, so expect to hear your Asian match speak very highly of her family.

These six questions will help you gain an insight of knowing your match. You will find out more than you bargained for by asking them and will be able to decide for yourself if pursuing the first date is a good idea.